Why We Chase Fairness - and What It Costs Us
We are creatures addicted to measurement. From the moment we
learn to speak, we learn to compare. Who got more? Who won?
Who's right? Fairness becomes the invisible currency of childhood
and the silent contract of adulthood. It feels moral, safe, and
stabilizing - but beneath it hides fear.
Fairness, at its core, is a longing for control. It's the mind's attempt
to make the mystery of existence manageable. When we say,
"That's not fair,"
we're really saying,
"I don't feel safe."
We crave
symmetry because imbalance unnerves us. Yet, everything sacred
- growth, grace, love - is born out of imbalance.