Jack Moser has been dealing with men and male issues in therapy since 1980. He has witnessed men in relationships as they constantly make the same mistakes. In this book, he calls men the lost gender. His experience with men tells him that less than 10 percent of males ever truly discover who they are. They seem to constantly portray their false self, the self of ego, and control and power to women. Women are not looking for this; rather, they seek secure, compassionate, warm, good-humored men who are comfortable in their own skin. Dr. Moser has not discovered many of these men in his male groups over the past thirty years.