The Abuse of Children and Adults Who Struggle for Survival and the Challenge to Avoid Blaming the Victim: Volume 2: Children and Emotionally Damaged Mothers Struggle for Survival

THE ABUSE OF CHILDREN AND ADULTS WHO STRUGGLE FOR SURVIVAL AND THE CHALLENGE TO AVOID BLAMING THE VICTIM Unfortunately, many children in the United States are raised under less than ideal conditions. Many children are born to unwed mothers and never even know their fathers. Still others are abandoned by one or both of their parents when they are young. They often live in households subsisting below the poverty level where drug and alcohol abuse is rampant. Some are lucky and are taken to live with grandparents or other caring relatives. Others end up in foster homes that may or may not be much better. Even so, most continue to live in an environment where they are not properly cared for and many are neglected, abused and damaged, physically and emotionally. In this series of books the authors, using vignettes of actual case histories from their own professional experiences, chronicle what happens to children and youth who are abandoned or live in situations where they are unable to flourish and develop into contributing members of society. As the authors point out, many children from such backgrounds grow up to abandon, neglect, and abuse their own offspring. The past does not need to be prologue. The authors make the case that under the guidance of skilled and caring professionals, such as teachers and counselors, the cycle can be broken. In this respect they issue a clarion call to lawmakers, policymakers, and others charged with the welfare of children to examine the conditions that have allowed far too many children to grow up in environments where they are not nourished and cannot thrive, physically or emotionally, and take corrective action. Volume 2: Children and Emotionally Damaged Mothers Struggle for Survival presents a theoretical rationale discussing several basic questions: First, what is a child? Second, what are the child's developmental needs? Finally, what is the role of the parents? In particular this volume asks: What is the mothering role? What is the father's role? and, to complete the cycle of inquiry attempted in the series, what is the grandparents' role. The volume provides a description of the struggles that some mothers are forced to endure offering vignettes to show the consequences to children. The volume further describes the negative effects of mothers who are impulsive, lack self-limiting ability leading to lack of personal control over their children. Included vignettes illustrate how damaged mothers are forced to live with little to no support from family members, or services from community agencies for which they are not eligible or from which resources are inadequate. Volume 2 also offers a look towards the future and what is needed to close the gap between damaged mothers and attempts to once and for all break the negative cyclical effect.