Seeing Yourself the Mirror of Marriage

Marriage doesn’t create problems, it reveals problems. The problems each spouse bring to a marriage will be the problems of the marriage. Solve yourself and you greatly enhance the odds of enjoying a fulfilling and lasting marriage. Whether a couple is attracted to each other because of looks, or personality, or other factors, it would stand to reason that wedded bliss would be the expected outcome. But that quite often is not the case: Even Captain and Tennille, a pop duo from my younger years, captured the nation’s attention by singing of their committed love in the song, “Love Will Keep Us Together,” yet ended up divorcing after thirty-nine years of marriage. Why did this duo, in addition to a myriad of others, fail in marriage? James Dubbs, who has been involved in ministry for more than fifty years as a youth and family pastor, has in his book uncovered why so many marriages fail. You’re invited to examine yourself to understand how you may be contributing unwittingly to damaging conflict in your relationship. Consider questions such as: • What does it mean, and how does a spouse “solve” oneself? • What conditions can overtake love and doom a marriage? • What part does the hidden power of contempt play in a broken marriage? • What actions must you take in seeking to prevent marital love from turning sour? Whether you’re thinking about getting married, struggling in a marriage, or simply want to do everything you can to ensure your love remains vibrant and strong, this book is steeped with wisdom from the Bible and life experience to help you achieve that end.