Affirmative Parenting

Childrearing can be a daunting experience, with rules to learn, decisions to make, and dangers to avoid. And there are always well-meaning grandparents, aunts and uncles, and even complete strangers who are ready to tell you what to do! When it comes to discipline and guidance, you may be torn between taking an approach that's "hands-off" or one that focuses on strict discipline. Sometimes you'll find yourself veering back and forth between the two, and then asking yourself if you're doing the right thing. Your choices may be influenced by your experiences as a child. You may wish to replicate the conditions under which you were raised by your parents or caregivers, or, like the author, you may hope to avoid the approach used on you when you were a child, and find a new way forward for your own family. The goal of is to make your job easier and more enjoyable. It's not intended to intimidate you with endless theories and dire warnings about all the things that could go wrong between birth and your child's entrance into adulthood. It's designed to provide a positive set of directions based on simple common sense. Above all, as the title suggests, the book offers an approach based on positive reinforcement of good behavior rather than excessive punishment for bad behavior or mistakes. All human beings, including children, want to know the way forward. They want to learn how to succeed and how to lead a happy life. While the occasional "course correction" is inevitable, the book encourages parents to act as guides for their children, rewarding them for accomplishments, suggesting new goals, and supporting exploration and self-discovery. You'll discover that you'll get better results by saying, "Yes, do this!" rather than, "No, don't do that." shows why it's important to create an autonomous environment, which is a space for your child to make many of their own decisions while keeping clear boundaries. It's your job to balance safety and freedom, so that your child has the opportunity to explore both physically and creatively while always having a safe "home base" to return to. Your child will test you to see your reaction to pushing the limits. If you tell your child to never write on the walls, you can be sure that very soon your child will, in full view of you, stand next to the wall, crayon in hand, looking you in the eye. This is a test to see how you'll respond, and with the help of this book, you'll handle the situation with grace and good spirits. As your child grows from a baby to a young adult, is your indispensable guide, helping you to set your child on the path to success in life.